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Podcasts, websites, and large “Parenting” sections in bookstores testify to the large demand for parent guidance and support, but also to the fact that there is no one universally accepted guidebook, such as Benjamin Spock provided for parents almost 80 years ago with Baby and Child Care.
We will describe the basic components of this curriculum so that you may determine whether it might be useful to the families in your practice. Then we will expand upon the domains that have proven essential for parents to nurture healthy development in their children. Even if you do not have the time or resources to provide the full Triple P curriculum, you can offer these principles directly to parents and decide when to refer them to access more formal parent training and coaching.
Triple P was developed by psychologist Matthew Sanders, to “promote positive, caring relationships between parents and their children and to help parents develop effective management strategies for dealing with a variety of childhood behavior problems and common developmental issues” as his doctoral project in Australia in the 1980s. Research in the 1990s suggested substantial efficacy, and it was packaged for broader adoption in the early 2000s. It is a tiered approach, meaning there is content for universal education (level 1), up through more intensive, specialized, and individualized content to be delivered in group or individual settings focused on building specific skills or addressing select problems. It was originally developed for the parents of 0- to 11-year-old children, with additional curricula for parents of teenagers created later. It always is delivered to parents only, through a mix of video and reading, or in-person groups or individual coaching. While the universal education resources are available for free to families of children under 12 in Australia, resources and training are available for a fee in the United states (triplep.net). Research has demonstrated considerable efficacy at reducing some of the common behavioral problems of childhood, improving parental confidence and family harmony, and decreasing rates of parental depression. It has even demonstrated efficacy in reducing the incidence of child maltreatment.
Triple P focuses on what Sanders calls the five key principles of positive parenting:
- 1. Creating a safe and engaging environment for children
- 2. Providing a positive learning environment for children
- 3. Assertive discipline
- 4. Having realistic expectations
- 5. Parental self-care.
The educational materials and more intensive parent trainings are all focused on developing knowledge and skills in the parents that will promote a positive relationship with their children, teach the children new skills while encouraging desirable behaviors, and managing problematic behaviors. The training happens with written or video scenarios, up through individualized skill coaching with homework and direct feedback from trained clinicians. While information about the universally helpful knowledge and skills can be found online or accessed through some local programs in the United States, the higher levels of intervention are less consistently available. You should explore what is available in your community, but even if you don’t have the resources for your own training, you are already offering parent guidance at every visit.
Practical Strategies
Below are practical strategies to offer parents the knowledge and support that are essential to “positive parenting,” so they may nurture their children’s healthiest development.
Attunement: Attunement is simply a parent’s ability to know who their child is and where their child is at any given time. This covers an appreciation of the child’s temperament, style, interests, strengths, and vulnerabilities. Where their child is at includes being able to read that particular child’s cues: Are they hungry? Sleepy? Sick? Frustrated? Parents are the experts on their children, but their children are also always changing. You can help the parents in your practice be intentional about being attuned to their children, so they can always be deepening their understanding of who their children are (becoming) and where they are at in any given moment. This requires protecting regular, unstructured time when they can give their children their full attention: reading, doing an art project, practicing music, or basketball. Schedules are often packed with work and school, driving between many structured activities. Reassure the parents in your practice that time spent in play is just as important. When a parent is present, attentive, and curious, asking questions, learning about the child’s thoughts, feelings and ideas, they are doing some of the most essential (and delightful) work of raising children.
Positive Environment: A “positive environment” is child-centered, with access to age-appropriate activities of a wide range. Offering first-time parents written resources about child development and age-appropriate games, books, and activities is an easy way to support positive parenting. A positive environment also has structure and routines, so children can play and explore with the comfort of knowing what to expect and what is expected of them. Do they have a regular bedtime and bedtime routines? Do they consistently eat dinner together and clean up as a family? Do they have reliable unstructured time together, maybe playing board games or kickball after dinner? These varying but predictable routines provide opportunities for children to practice helping, following through, sharing, and tolerating frustration or failure, and they give parents low-stakes opportunities to offer praise for their effort, compassion when they struggle, and affection for no reason at all. They lower the chances of parent-child interactions being predominantly reactive, demanding, pleading, or angry.
Effective Discipline: A positive environment includes reasonable and consistent consequences for rule breaking and poor behavior, and an essential part of predictability includes clear ground rules for what is expected of children at home, around chores, getting ready for school and bedtime, and their behavior. Parents need to agree on and children should understand what the consequences will be for breaking rules. Parents should also have a clear strategy for consistently and calmly enforcing rules. This is not easy, but is just as important as affection and play. If parents are struggling with discipline, it is worth asking for a specific example to learn about where the trouble lies. Are parents not on the same page? Are they worried about their children’s distress? Do they lose their temper and the matter escalates? Clear ground rules and a game plan can help them to stay calm instead of resorting to pleading and yelling. Speaking with them about the value of planning and communicating about these expectations and rules during a quiet time, not in the midst of conflict, might be enough to help them with effective discipline. Others may need more support. Books like 123 Magic with more detail on how to manage time outs can be helpful. For those parents who are managing greater difficulty, a referral to parent coaching (with a modality such as Triple P, Parent-Child Interaction Training or Collaborative Problem Solving) may be needed.
Parental Well-Being: Being aligned with one’s spouse (or other caregiver) in how to manage challenging child behaviors is essential to a healthy relationship, and overall well-being is an essential ingredient in creating a nurturing, positive environment at home. How is the parents’ communication with each other overall? Do they have time together that is not focused on the children? Does each parent have time for outside interests or hobbies? How about other important relationships? Do they prioritize their own sleep, regular exercise, and good nutrition? It can be powerful if they plan family activities that are centered on their own passions and interests as well as their children’s. It is powerful for parents to hear from you that when they protect some of their time and energy to simply care for their own health and well-being, they are building a positive environment for their children, both in how they will show up for their family and in what they model.
Swick is physician in chief at Ohana, Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, Community Hospital of the Monterey (Calif.) Peninsula. Jellinek is professor emeritus of psychiatry and pediatrics, Harvard Medical School, Boston. Email them at pdnews@mdedge.com.
Suggested Reading
Sanders MR et al. The Development and Dissemination of the Triple P – Positive Parenting Program: A Multilevel Evidence-Based System of Parenting and Family Support. Prev Sci. 2002 Sep;3(3):173-89. doi: 10.1023/a:1019942516231.
Sanders MR. The Triple P System of Evidence-Based Parenting Support: Past, Present, and Future Directions. Clin Child Fam Psychol Rev. 2023 Dec;26(4):880-903. doi: 10.1007/s10567-023-00441-8.
Podcasts, websites, and large “Parenting” sections in bookstores testify to the large demand for parent guidance and support, but also to the fact that there is no one universally accepted guidebook, such as Benjamin Spock provided for parents almost 80 years ago with Baby and Child Care.
We will describe the basic components of this curriculum so that you may determine whether it might be useful to the families in your practice. Then we will expand upon the domains that have proven essential for parents to nurture healthy development in their children. Even if you do not have the time or resources to provide the full Triple P curriculum, you can offer these principles directly to parents and decide when to refer them to access more formal parent training and coaching.
Triple P was developed by psychologist Matthew Sanders, to “promote positive, caring relationships between parents and their children and to help parents develop effective management strategies for dealing with a variety of childhood behavior problems and common developmental issues” as his doctoral project in Australia in the 1980s. Research in the 1990s suggested substantial efficacy, and it was packaged for broader adoption in the early 2000s. It is a tiered approach, meaning there is content for universal education (level 1), up through more intensive, specialized, and individualized content to be delivered in group or individual settings focused on building specific skills or addressing select problems. It was originally developed for the parents of 0- to 11-year-old children, with additional curricula for parents of teenagers created later. It always is delivered to parents only, through a mix of video and reading, or in-person groups or individual coaching. While the universal education resources are available for free to families of children under 12 in Australia, resources and training are available for a fee in the United states (triplep.net). Research has demonstrated considerable efficacy at reducing some of the common behavioral problems of childhood, improving parental confidence and family harmony, and decreasing rates of parental depression. It has even demonstrated efficacy in reducing the incidence of child maltreatment.
Triple P focuses on what Sanders calls the five key principles of positive parenting:
- 1. Creating a safe and engaging environment for children
- 2. Providing a positive learning environment for children
- 3. Assertive discipline
- 4. Having realistic expectations
- 5. Parental self-care.
The educational materials and more intensive parent trainings are all focused on developing knowledge and skills in the parents that will promote a positive relationship with their children, teach the children new skills while encouraging desirable behaviors, and managing problematic behaviors. The training happens with written or video scenarios, up through individualized skill coaching with homework and direct feedback from trained clinicians. While information about the universally helpful knowledge and skills can be found online or accessed through some local programs in the United States, the higher levels of intervention are less consistently available. You should explore what is available in your community, but even if you don’t have the resources for your own training, you are already offering parent guidance at every visit.
Practical Strategies
Below are practical strategies to offer parents the knowledge and support that are essential to “positive parenting,” so they may nurture their children’s healthiest development.
Attunement: Attunement is simply a parent’s ability to know who their child is and where their child is at any given time. This covers an appreciation of the child’s temperament, style, interests, strengths, and vulnerabilities. Where their child is at includes being able to read that particular child’s cues: Are they hungry? Sleepy? Sick? Frustrated? Parents are the experts on their children, but their children are also always changing. You can help the parents in your practice be intentional about being attuned to their children, so they can always be deepening their understanding of who their children are (becoming) and where they are at in any given moment. This requires protecting regular, unstructured time when they can give their children their full attention: reading, doing an art project, practicing music, or basketball. Schedules are often packed with work and school, driving between many structured activities. Reassure the parents in your practice that time spent in play is just as important. When a parent is present, attentive, and curious, asking questions, learning about the child’s thoughts, feelings and ideas, they are doing some of the most essential (and delightful) work of raising children.
Positive Environment: A “positive environment” is child-centered, with access to age-appropriate activities of a wide range. Offering first-time parents written resources about child development and age-appropriate games, books, and activities is an easy way to support positive parenting. A positive environment also has structure and routines, so children can play and explore with the comfort of knowing what to expect and what is expected of them. Do they have a regular bedtime and bedtime routines? Do they consistently eat dinner together and clean up as a family? Do they have reliable unstructured time together, maybe playing board games or kickball after dinner? These varying but predictable routines provide opportunities for children to practice helping, following through, sharing, and tolerating frustration or failure, and they give parents low-stakes opportunities to offer praise for their effort, compassion when they struggle, and affection for no reason at all. They lower the chances of parent-child interactions being predominantly reactive, demanding, pleading, or angry.
Effective Discipline: A positive environment includes reasonable and consistent consequences for rule breaking and poor behavior, and an essential part of predictability includes clear ground rules for what is expected of children at home, around chores, getting ready for school and bedtime, and their behavior. Parents need to agree on and children should understand what the consequences will be for breaking rules. Parents should also have a clear strategy for consistently and calmly enforcing rules. This is not easy, but is just as important as affection and play. If parents are struggling with discipline, it is worth asking for a specific example to learn about where the trouble lies. Are parents not on the same page? Are they worried about their children’s distress? Do they lose their temper and the matter escalates? Clear ground rules and a game plan can help them to stay calm instead of resorting to pleading and yelling. Speaking with them about the value of planning and communicating about these expectations and rules during a quiet time, not in the midst of conflict, might be enough to help them with effective discipline. Others may need more support. Books like 123 Magic with more detail on how to manage time outs can be helpful. For those parents who are managing greater difficulty, a referral to parent coaching (with a modality such as Triple P, Parent-Child Interaction Training or Collaborative Problem Solving) may be needed.
Parental Well-Being: Being aligned with one’s spouse (or other caregiver) in how to manage challenging child behaviors is essential to a healthy relationship, and overall well-being is an essential ingredient in creating a nurturing, positive environment at home. How is the parents’ communication with each other overall? Do they have time together that is not focused on the children? Does each parent have time for outside interests or hobbies? How about other important relationships? Do they prioritize their own sleep, regular exercise, and good nutrition? It can be powerful if they plan family activities that are centered on their own passions and interests as well as their children’s. It is powerful for parents to hear from you that when they protect some of their time and energy to simply care for their own health and well-being, they are building a positive environment for their children, both in how they will show up for their family and in what they model.
Swick is physician in chief at Ohana, Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, Community Hospital of the Monterey (Calif.) Peninsula. Jellinek is professor emeritus of psychiatry and pediatrics, Harvard Medical School, Boston. Email them at pdnews@mdedge.com.
Suggested Reading
Sanders MR et al. The Development and Dissemination of the Triple P – Positive Parenting Program: A Multilevel Evidence-Based System of Parenting and Family Support. Prev Sci. 2002 Sep;3(3):173-89. doi: 10.1023/a:1019942516231.
Sanders MR. The Triple P System of Evidence-Based Parenting Support: Past, Present, and Future Directions. Clin Child Fam Psychol Rev. 2023 Dec;26(4):880-903. doi: 10.1007/s10567-023-00441-8.
Podcasts, websites, and large “Parenting” sections in bookstores testify to the large demand for parent guidance and support, but also to the fact that there is no one universally accepted guidebook, such as Benjamin Spock provided for parents almost 80 years ago with Baby and Child Care.
We will describe the basic components of this curriculum so that you may determine whether it might be useful to the families in your practice. Then we will expand upon the domains that have proven essential for parents to nurture healthy development in their children. Even if you do not have the time or resources to provide the full Triple P curriculum, you can offer these principles directly to parents and decide when to refer them to access more formal parent training and coaching.
Triple P was developed by psychologist Matthew Sanders, to “promote positive, caring relationships between parents and their children and to help parents develop effective management strategies for dealing with a variety of childhood behavior problems and common developmental issues” as his doctoral project in Australia in the 1980s. Research in the 1990s suggested substantial efficacy, and it was packaged for broader adoption in the early 2000s. It is a tiered approach, meaning there is content for universal education (level 1), up through more intensive, specialized, and individualized content to be delivered in group or individual settings focused on building specific skills or addressing select problems. It was originally developed for the parents of 0- to 11-year-old children, with additional curricula for parents of teenagers created later. It always is delivered to parents only, through a mix of video and reading, or in-person groups or individual coaching. While the universal education resources are available for free to families of children under 12 in Australia, resources and training are available for a fee in the United states (triplep.net). Research has demonstrated considerable efficacy at reducing some of the common behavioral problems of childhood, improving parental confidence and family harmony, and decreasing rates of parental depression. It has even demonstrated efficacy in reducing the incidence of child maltreatment.
Triple P focuses on what Sanders calls the five key principles of positive parenting:
- 1. Creating a safe and engaging environment for children
- 2. Providing a positive learning environment for children
- 3. Assertive discipline
- 4. Having realistic expectations
- 5. Parental self-care.
The educational materials and more intensive parent trainings are all focused on developing knowledge and skills in the parents that will promote a positive relationship with their children, teach the children new skills while encouraging desirable behaviors, and managing problematic behaviors. The training happens with written or video scenarios, up through individualized skill coaching with homework and direct feedback from trained clinicians. While information about the universally helpful knowledge and skills can be found online or accessed through some local programs in the United States, the higher levels of intervention are less consistently available. You should explore what is available in your community, but even if you don’t have the resources for your own training, you are already offering parent guidance at every visit.
Practical Strategies
Below are practical strategies to offer parents the knowledge and support that are essential to “positive parenting,” so they may nurture their children’s healthiest development.
Attunement: Attunement is simply a parent’s ability to know who their child is and where their child is at any given time. This covers an appreciation of the child’s temperament, style, interests, strengths, and vulnerabilities. Where their child is at includes being able to read that particular child’s cues: Are they hungry? Sleepy? Sick? Frustrated? Parents are the experts on their children, but their children are also always changing. You can help the parents in your practice be intentional about being attuned to their children, so they can always be deepening their understanding of who their children are (becoming) and where they are at in any given moment. This requires protecting regular, unstructured time when they can give their children their full attention: reading, doing an art project, practicing music, or basketball. Schedules are often packed with work and school, driving between many structured activities. Reassure the parents in your practice that time spent in play is just as important. When a parent is present, attentive, and curious, asking questions, learning about the child’s thoughts, feelings and ideas, they are doing some of the most essential (and delightful) work of raising children.
Positive Environment: A “positive environment” is child-centered, with access to age-appropriate activities of a wide range. Offering first-time parents written resources about child development and age-appropriate games, books, and activities is an easy way to support positive parenting. A positive environment also has structure and routines, so children can play and explore with the comfort of knowing what to expect and what is expected of them. Do they have a regular bedtime and bedtime routines? Do they consistently eat dinner together and clean up as a family? Do they have reliable unstructured time together, maybe playing board games or kickball after dinner? These varying but predictable routines provide opportunities for children to practice helping, following through, sharing, and tolerating frustration or failure, and they give parents low-stakes opportunities to offer praise for their effort, compassion when they struggle, and affection for no reason at all. They lower the chances of parent-child interactions being predominantly reactive, demanding, pleading, or angry.
Effective Discipline: A positive environment includes reasonable and consistent consequences for rule breaking and poor behavior, and an essential part of predictability includes clear ground rules for what is expected of children at home, around chores, getting ready for school and bedtime, and their behavior. Parents need to agree on and children should understand what the consequences will be for breaking rules. Parents should also have a clear strategy for consistently and calmly enforcing rules. This is not easy, but is just as important as affection and play. If parents are struggling with discipline, it is worth asking for a specific example to learn about where the trouble lies. Are parents not on the same page? Are they worried about their children’s distress? Do they lose their temper and the matter escalates? Clear ground rules and a game plan can help them to stay calm instead of resorting to pleading and yelling. Speaking with them about the value of planning and communicating about these expectations and rules during a quiet time, not in the midst of conflict, might be enough to help them with effective discipline. Others may need more support. Books like 123 Magic with more detail on how to manage time outs can be helpful. For those parents who are managing greater difficulty, a referral to parent coaching (with a modality such as Triple P, Parent-Child Interaction Training or Collaborative Problem Solving) may be needed.
Parental Well-Being: Being aligned with one’s spouse (or other caregiver) in how to manage challenging child behaviors is essential to a healthy relationship, and overall well-being is an essential ingredient in creating a nurturing, positive environment at home. How is the parents’ communication with each other overall? Do they have time together that is not focused on the children? Does each parent have time for outside interests or hobbies? How about other important relationships? Do they prioritize their own sleep, regular exercise, and good nutrition? It can be powerful if they plan family activities that are centered on their own passions and interests as well as their children’s. It is powerful for parents to hear from you that when they protect some of their time and energy to simply care for their own health and well-being, they are building a positive environment for their children, both in how they will show up for their family and in what they model.
Swick is physician in chief at Ohana, Center for Child and Adolescent Behavioral Health, Community Hospital of the Monterey (Calif.) Peninsula. Jellinek is professor emeritus of psychiatry and pediatrics, Harvard Medical School, Boston. Email them at pdnews@mdedge.com.
Suggested Reading
Sanders MR et al. The Development and Dissemination of the Triple P – Positive Parenting Program: A Multilevel Evidence-Based System of Parenting and Family Support. Prev Sci. 2002 Sep;3(3):173-89. doi: 10.1023/a:1019942516231.
Sanders MR. The Triple P System of Evidence-Based Parenting Support: Past, Present, and Future Directions. Clin Child Fam Psychol Rev. 2023 Dec;26(4):880-903. doi: 10.1007/s10567-023-00441-8.